Sunday, May 23, 2010

A Dainty Morsel

We all love a tasty morsel, don’t we?  I know I do because I love good food, but that’s not the kind of morsel I’m talking about today. When this kind of morsel is put in front of us, we should want to cover it with a napkin and throw it out.

I always considered it a form of friendly fire because it involves people we know-- but I was wrong. It’s more like collateral damage, because it isn’t directed at a real enemy. However, its damage can be deadly and its wound can be almost impossible to cure - hanging on like a bad odour!

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Dorothy was the closest when she mentioned the tongue (in the comments). However, gossip is so much more than words. Our body language can be used as a vehicle for gossip. Any knowing look, wink, shrug, even a sigh can imply a negative message. Proverbs 6:12-14

 We need to be so careful.

A brother offended is harder to win back than a fortified city. We all know how this story goes. First it was someone laughing a lot and having fun, then before you know it the story has morphed, and finally he was drunk and behaving badly. It is a body blow to the innocent. Proverbs 26:22

The victim of an untrue statement can become distrustful and eventually pull away. It creates an untrusting community that internalizes their struggles, refusing to open their hearts to each other. No wonder God hates gossip! (Proverbs 6:19) He ranked it right along with fornication, adultery and murder! Ezekiel 22:9-12

Receiving and believing gossip is just as bad as repeating it.  In Psalm 15: 2,3  we are told to speak the truth in our hearts. Recognize gossip as something which is misconstrued, having been chewed on and added to; a poison which we have to avoid at all cost!

 If you have something against your brother, go tell him/her!  If you’re not comfortable doing this on your own, take someone (you both respect) along with you, and deal with it ( Leviticus 19:16-18). If you don’t do this, you will end up hating your brother in your heart, and you will gossip about him.
Gossip comes about through unforgiveness, but when you cover a transgression by forgiving, it is an act of love (Proverbs 17:9). Unfortunately, it seems we usually choose to repeat a matter...all the while ‘glossing over’ our own shortcomings. Perhaps it is because we are so guilty ourselves, that we pull a man down hoping to look just a little better. Psalm 64:3,4

The right thing to do is to abstain from every appearance of sin. This does not necessarily mean that we don’t do things which look like they’re sinful, but it means that whenever we hear of sin we should nullify it by covering and forgiving it. Not by repeating it, and especially not by glorifying it in some way!

Remember – we all have a dark side that requires His grace in our lives. None of us is exempt.. not one. We all say things we shouldn’t. We all do things we shouldn’t. We are not so different from the next guy.

A couple of cautions:
1. Gossip is never done out of spiritual concern for someone. You don’t need to know the details in order to pray for Gods will in their lives.
2.  Gossip backfires. “Debate your case with your neighbour and do not disclose the secret to another; lest he who hears it expose your shame, and your reputation be ruined.” Proverbs 25:9,10
If you still really want to partake in a tasty's a piece of cake! ;)

Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honest, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely or of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things!
Philippians 4:8

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  1. Ah ha! Yes....indeed.... It's a line we cross all too easily, and it truly can results in so much more harm than we ever intended. We really need to use Philippians 4:8 as a checklist with everything we hear--before our tongue gets the best of us!

    Nice follow up!!

  2. Very wise words, Carmen! When I read Dainty morsel, I thought immediately of the proverbs verse.

    No dainty morsels for me. I will have a slice of that cake, however! ;-)

  3. Thank you for stopping by arise 2 write and joining to follow. I have joined to follow here and look forward to getting to know you.

  4. Hi Carmen ,
    Thanks so much for stopping by, it's always a blessing meeting new friends along my blogging journey!! Very good post spoken truthfully yet with love. I can't tell you how many relationships I have seen destroyed because of gossip.

    Hugz Lorie

  5. I would much perfer that piece of cake. Oh gossip--how it hurts and we think we are being harmless with it. I've been on both sides sadly and wish it wouldn't be part of what we do. Thank you!

  6. Hi Carmen,
    It's so good to hear from you again!

    I think it's part of our nature to gossip, which certainly doesn't make it right, but might explain why controlling it seems to be an eternal struggle.

    The temptation to gossip can seem like such a tasty treat...kind of like the apple. But can't underestimate what's destroyed in the process of partaking.

    Now, cake on the other hand, that's a tasty treat I can get behind!!!


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