Sunday, January 31, 2010

Life Isn't Fair!

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There is one question that most people have asked themselves at one time or another. It doesn’t matter whether they believe in God or not, they still ask it.  

If God is a God of love, why does He allow bad things to happen?

Most of us have noticed that life isn’t fair. Good things happen to bad people, and bad things happen to good people.  Solomon tells us that there are times and seasons in our lives. In essence he is saying that God has a perfect plan that includes everything we need, including the bad and the good.

I've realized that the sum of everything I’ve experienced makes me who I am today. I am thankful for the bad and the good things of my life. Not because I like bad things to happen to me, but because I know that God has a purpose in allowing me to go through them. As well, we sometimes do things or say things that inevitably bring us to bad places in our lives. The good thing is, if we survive them, we can learn from them. This is our freewill in motion! God allows freewill because He wants people that truly love Him...not puppets that merely serve Him.

Motivated by envy and ambition; the strong prey on the weak and the helpless, and therefore injustice thrives.  Solomon observes that, “all skill in work comes from man’s rivalry with his neighbor.” I thought that was interesting because it tells us something we’re probably not immediately aware of when we go about doing things. It’s not necessarily that we want the biggest house, the most expensive car, the most appealing spouse. Although it’s nice to have those things, what we actually want is to be admired and recognized! Look at me! I’ve done well for myself! I’m a self made whatever! What it comes down to is a selfish search for significance, without God.

To be honest, I don’t desire abundant riches. Oh sure, I like to spend money once in a while—but if I don’t, I’ll do with what I have.  I’m fairly easy going as far as that’s concerned. “Better is a handful with quietness than both hands full with painful effort.” There’s much to be said for living that way if you ask me.

I know of a man who worked at a very well paying job. When he was done his hours at the job, he spent a good deal of time going through garbage bins, etc. Here is the strange thing...the guy was already a millionaire. He was also a miser not willing to spend money on the things that were needed, let alone things that were wanted. So when he died, the first thing his wife did was fix all the things around the house that had been neglected for years. Then she bought some things she’d been wanting. Some of the money went to his adult kids, whom he never really had great relationships with.

He never stopped to ask the question, “why am I working so hard for money I don’t need, when tomorrow I may die?”Painful effort and vain striving—it’s meaningless.

I am so thankful that I have a great husband and good friends. People I can rely on, and who can rely on me.  The one thing that I value above all other things is relationship. We can’t take anything from this earth with us; though many have tried, as evidenced by the treasures found in the tombs of ancient Egypt. If we take anything from this world, it will be the relationships which extend beyond our lives on earth. I truly believe that the end of this life is the beginning of eternity.

Solomon seems to value relationships too. It's true that we need each other, but Solomon goes beyond that. “A threefold cord is not quickly broken.” My husband quoted that scripture to me when we were going out, and before we were married. I had no idea what it meant at the time, but now I know.  A relationship that includes God is not quickly broken.

This raises a side note. I know that the divorce rate in churches is as high as in the secular world. It’s scriptures like this that make me wonder why this is happening in our churches. Are we taking seriously God’s commands and living as we ought? Are we Christians in name only? God forbid!  Perhaps that’s a topic for another time.

The next phrase is interesting. Better is a poor and wise youth than an old and foolish king who no longer heeds a warning. Now that I’m getting a little older myself, I can relate to this one. As we get older, we seem to resist change. We also think that we’re older and wiser. The truth is, things change, and that is very observable in our present age of technology. I know I don’t need to expound on this as most of you have children. ;) Age doesn’t guarantee wisdom, or knowledge, for that matter.
However, we choose whether we learn from our experiences or not. When you think you’ve arrived, you’re probably pretty far behind, as I’ve learned. It’s like I said in an earlier post, the more we learn, the more we realize we don’t know.

Wisdom is different than knowledge; it comes through utilizing knowledge and experience with common sense and insight.  There is much wisdom available to us in the Bible, but we can still lack wisdom if we don’t take it to heart and apply it to our lives.  Even those who come after us, endowed with knowledge but not having wisdom, will repeat the same mistakes. That is why history repeats itself; that is why there’s nothing new under the sun. We think we’re so smart...but are we?

So this too is meaningless—and the earth continues to turn on its axis, and we continue to wonder.

What is the purpose to life?
Why are we here?

*I’ve really been enjoying your comments on my past posts on Ecclesiastes.  They have been spot on and in many ways address the answers we’re looking for.  I love your insights!

Thanks so much for visiting!


  1. That was a sad story you shared. Pretty much parallels what Jesus was saying to the rich young ruler. He wouldn't part with his money for relationship. His heart was not where it should have been and Jesus let him walk away. Do we think about that part of things?

    As precious as Godly wisdom is, to not have a relationship with the One who grants it means I'm holding on to something that can only take me so far. Godly wisdom should tell me that without a relationship with God, through Christ, by the power of the Holy Spirit, I am truly nothing.

    So much great stuff here, Carmen--freewill, purpose, wisdom. And He really does have a plan that includes it all!

  2. When people have found out that I was a pastor's daughter, they have always asked me why God "Allowed" things to happen, how He could be so cold-hearted as to allow a child to suffer or thousands of people to die in a storm. And I must admit that some of the things I've even questioned about myself, but as I've grown I've come to realize that it does have to do with free-will and God's purpose for us. Even knowing that though it's still often hard to try to comprehend why God would let something happen. There is a song that I try to remember whenever I start to questioning: "Through It All"
    " I thank God for my mountains and I thank God for my valleys and I thank Him for the storms He's brought me through. If I never had a problem, I wouldn't know Jesus could solve them, I wouldn't know what faith in His word could do". I think when it comes down to's about learning to let go of our own doubts and just trusting God.

  3. I know the song! That's going back a ways! I like the way you've summed it all up!

    Freewill is something I think we all want, and yet it's something that can be such a detrimental thing to us and others when we use it. In my last post I mentioned how God wants us to see ourselves as we really that we can see that we need Him. Freewill makes that possible.

  4. This post really held a big significance for me. It's all about relationships--whether in times when we have money or don't. They truly are what counts and sometimes we go through those rough times to find out where they are in our lives.

  5. Oh Carmen - so very true all of it! I have asked myself and God many times... Why me?? and Life is sooo not fair sometimes... but I know in my heart God has a plan and no he doesn't always give the answers we want... or when we want them... but he does deliver and does have a plan for us...
    Somehow I think we were possibly meant to find each other thru Blog land... Thank you also for your kind words on my Blog..:) I look forward to more of your posts and inspiration..
    Love Lou xx


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